When you are disabled or live with chronic pain sometimes it can be really difficult to stay positive. The pain will always be there so what is the point of staying positive? Nothing is going to change whether you are positive or not. Yes that may be true and you may not be able to get rid of your pain but when you are always negative it will make you feel depressed and a very unhappy person. When I started having pain I was a very negative person and became very depressed so yes I’ve been in that place and I know how hard it is to be positive when you are hurting. It’s not going to be easy but if you truly want to be happy you have to change your mindset regardless of whether or not you have chronic pain. Staying positive can be difficult for a lot of people because of some of the challenges we face so today I am going to give you a few hacks on how I stay positive.
Motivational podcasts- I am loving podcasts right now because they are great for when you are feeling down. Not all podcasts are created equal and some podcasts may not give you very useful information and if you are struggling you want to make sure you are feeding your brain with something that can help you get through those tough times. Right now I am loving the It Takes Grit Podcast which is led by fitness instructor Rebecca Louise and through that podcast, you will get all kinds of motivational advice that you can implement into your lifestyle for when you are feeling down. I am guilty of wanting to do more for other than I want to do for myself so listening to this podcast has been very therapeutic for me and has taught me that it isn’t going to kill you to slow down and do something for yourself every once in a while. Do you have a favorite podcast? I love listening to podcasts so if you have a podcast you think I could benefit from I’d love to hear it!
Stop dwelling on the things you can’t do- Disabled people face a lot of challenges but one of the biggest problems I see amongst disabled people that could be making them depressed is that they are focusing too much all everything they can’t do. When you are disabled there will be some things you can’t do and you have to be willing to accept that but there will be things you can. Put your focus on all the things you can do not the things you can’t! Getting upset over everything you can’t do is pointless because some things about your disability you cannot control but you can control how you react to it.
Be mindful of who you follow- Who you follow on social media matters because they will have an impact on how you feel about yourself whether you realize it or not. Personally, I don’t follow many celebrities because a lot of them annoy me with all the problems they complain about or I feel I can’t connect with them on a personal level. One of my favorite quotes that really resonated with me and got me thinking was don’t take advice from someone you wouldn’t want to trade place with. If you think about it there is some truth to that quote because would you take advice from someone you didn’t look up to or admire? No, you wouldn’t! It doesn’t matter how large your following is it only matters how many people are taking something away from your content because if no one cares what you have to say you are wasting your time. You can have a small following and make a huge impact on somebody’s life but you can also have a large following and not make much of an impact at all. Who you follow on social media is important and if you follow the wrong people you won’t feel good about yourself. It’s not always about the numbers but about building a community!
Positive mantras– This may sound kind of stupid and some people may not be willing to do it but if you are struggling to say positive things about yourself I would highly suggest you give it shot. A couple of years ago everything I thought about myself was negative! I did not think I had any talent or that I was beautiful and the only way I would say anything positive about myself is when I was agreeing with somebody else. I only agreed with people because I didn’t want to draw attention but I didn’t really believe it! That negative thinking caused me to have a very negative outlook on life and become very depressed. To change my mindset and think more positively I did a little exercise where I said something positive about myself out loud every day until I trained my brain to think more positively.
Make a list Sometimes when you are in a really bad situation it can be difficult to see the positive about that situation. When you can only see the negatives about a situation you become bitter and no one wants to be around you. There is always something positive that can come of any situation and if you are having trouble seeing that make a list and put it somewhere that you can see it every day. It can be as simple as you have a great support system there nothing is too small! Everyone goes through rough patches and sometimes all we need is a little reminder!
Listen to music- There is something about listening to my favorite bands that get me feeling super motivated and ready to take on the rest of my day. I probably spend the first hour or two of everyday listening to music to help motivate me so I will want to do something productive. If I didn’t start my day with music I would really struggle with motivating myself to want to do something and probably wouldn’t most of the time.
Bad things happen to some people and not to others in ways I can’t explain and sometimes these unfortunate events can make us feel depressed. Some things you cannot change but you can change your attitude about it and changing how you approach a situation is what is going to help you get through it. You may not be able to change your situation but you can change how you react to it! In my experience when you look at the positives in a negative situation it will be so much easier to see the light at the end of the tunnel. It won’t be easy but it is possible if you would take the time to train your brain to think more positively. If you find yourself drifting and having negative feelings take a moment and recognize those feelings and try not to dwell on them for too long. How do you stay positive? I’d love to hear your tips please leave them in the comments below.